The site to which I refer below is the creation of Alana S. Newman. Here’s a Huffington Post article critical of her (which is the equivalent of a badge of honor). I have heard Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse of the Ruth Institute talk about the victims of the sexual revolution and even particularly about the victims of artificial reproductive techniques, but Alana’s web site is my first direct exposure to the voices of those victims. (I learned of this site from Greg Koukl’s Stand to Reason podcast.)
Here’s the mission statement for Alana’s website:
The Anonymous Us Project is a safety zone for real and honest insights regarding third party reproduction (sperm & egg donation, and surrogacy). We aim to share the experiences of voluntary and involuntary participants in these new reproductive technologies, while preserving the dignity and privacy for story-tellers and their loved ones. All stories are contributed anonymously because “anonymity in reproduction hides the truth, but anonymity in story-telling helps reveal the truth.”
Alana – who calls herself “Alana S.” on the site – was herself “donor-conceived.” She speaks directly and poignantly to the difficult issues that artificial reproduction creates. She also conveys the confusion and pain suffered by the victims of these processes – which are, essentially processes designed to separate families.
Most people who think little or superficially about these issues think of terms like “freezing eggs” and “donating sperm” and “surrogacy” as ways of helping add to families. In fact, they are often just the opposite. It’s not just the money changing hands that taints the techniques, it’s the very techniques themselves. You don’t have to think about them too long or too deeply before you realize that they are “man putting asunder what God has joined together” (Matthew 19:6).
After listening to four of the podcasts (which are only about 15 minutes each), I feel like someone has gone over my heart with a cheese grater. It comes through the anonymous testimonies that the adults who create children in this way are thinking about themselves and not the children. As in the case of abortion, it appears hardly anyone involved is thinking about the child being created and what life will be like for him or her. In one testimony, I heard that a donor-conceived child is eight times more like to be sexually abused than a naturally-born child. It can be hard enough to survive this world with a mother and father who love you and each other. Why intentionally make it harder that that for someone?
Society’s adoption of so-called same-sex marriage is going to bring more money into the artificial reproduction industry, meaning there are going to be even more broken lives – lives broken from their very beginning.